How to love and understand a woman who has lived through a trauma.

Going through a traumatic experience changes how you perceive life. The trauma leaves you anxious and scared. Women can experience different types of trauma including abuse from a previous relationship, fights between parents, workplace, or war. You should know a few things if you happen to fall in love with a girl who has gone through any kind of trauma.

She Is A Survivor
When a girl goes through trauma, she walks through a steep path, not of her choosing, but one that is harder than the rest of the world will understand. She learns how to sail through the waves, even though she has no knowledge of swimming. She runs barefoot through scorching fires, but she manages to pass through breathing and alive.

She Is Strong
Even though experiences will cause her physical, mental, and emotional pain, she does not succumb to the things the world throws at her. However, she will never be the same girl again. The trauma changes her. She learns how to live with the memories from the experiences. Although she might seem jovial on some days, she is harboring pain deep down inside and she experiences fear that no one can understand.

She Knows How To Love
When you first approach a girl who has gone through trauma, she will seem aloof at first. You cannot blame her for this as her experiences have made it hard for her to trust. However, when she learns that your intentions are pure, she will love you more than you could ever imagine. She will open up to you. She will allow you to see her scars, and then give you an opportunity to understand that her scars made her perfect. She will trust you with her life and allow you to help her through the bad days. It might take time and a lot of patience but in the end, it will be worth it.

She Desires To Be Loved
A girl who has gone through trauma might not show interest in you at first, but always remember that she has strong desires. She wants someone to love her. If you happen to fall in love with a girl like this, you need to show her that she can trust you, that she can lean on you in times of need. Her loving you and you loving her is an opportunity for her to feel alive again.

She Expects The Worst
When you fall in love with a girl like this, you need to understand that the traumatizing experiences damaged her thoughts. Do not be surprised if she acts cynical. She is trying to avoid the cases where she will be caught by surprise if anything hits the fun.

She Needs To Trust You Before She Can Open Up To You
When all relationships require trust as a primary ingredient, it might be a bit exaggerated when you are dealing with a girl who has gone through trauma. Her mind and thoughts are broken and can at times lead you to tears. However, before she can share those thoughts with you, she needs to know that she can trust you.

Most importantly, when you fall in love with a girl who has gone through trauma, you are in for something special. She will not love you for what you have. Instead, she will love you for the little things you do for her, and she will appreciate life and her love for you on a whole other level.

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MEN ARE VICTIMS TOO that’s why #ISTANDWITHCOREY

The question that has been on my mind lately is why? Why has mainstream media been watching closely by the sidelines in regards to actor Corey Feldman? Why? Below are some of the reasons that seem to be more than obvious, to the brightest of the bunch. 

This is why it is my moral obligation to address the issues and to raise awareness to start shifting our culture into a more awakened society. It is time that we start to be a part of the solution rather than being a part of the problem. It is past due time that you got #WOKE

It is imperative to stress the importance by first stating that #MenAreVictimsToo 

This is an important point to address because society seems to associate abuse with women. This is mistake number one. For example, think for a quick minute of how many Shelters are available for women and children. Now having said that, how many are there specifically for men? Exactly. 

Abusers do not discriminate based on gender. Why should society? 

Abuse is an issue that is not about politics, gender, age, race, history or lifestyle choices. It is actually rather simple. My moral compass is based on a code of ethics and I am proud that it is pointed in the direction of humanity. 

This is about our future generations and learning from the mistakes of our past ones. It is about changing a culture and doing the right thing morally. As Corey says, it really is about #PreservingInnocence 

It really is time to start opening your mind and start questioning the status quo. If you keep asking yourself the question “Why” it will eventually lead you to the truth. It is up to you on whether or not you want to see it. Sometimes, it is not always neatly packaged. The truth is painful for many people, as they say, ignorance is bliss. 

In a world where times are changing faster then the tides, why is it so difficult to grasp that the “Old School” mentality is a thing of the past? It was handed down to us from the baby boomers and I think we have learned over the course of time, this too shall pass. It is past due time that we start protecting future generations from the mistakes of our past ones. Imagine how many lives we can save and ultimately change simply by shifting our culture.

It is about doing something monumentally life changing in our generation. It is about joining forces and making our voices as louder as one. It is about rewriting our history. It is really about good vs. evil.

There are people who will try to confuse the issue, to purposely cloud your judgement. The best piece of advice I can offer to supporters of this movement is, it’s paramount to do your own research. Do not rely on a world of fake news to give you the truth or to be the voice of reason.

It is vital to follow the trail and if it doesn’t feel right to you in your gut, then it is your duty to listen to that nagging feeling. Follow the facts, do not listen to people with hidden agendas. Follow proof, facts and evidence not thoughts or opinion like any intelligent person would do.

Look at the things that have happened in our world within the last few months. I attribute those changes to Corey Feldman. In my humble opinion, Time magazine got it wrong. Corey was the real silence breaker and it is time we all realized that.

This blog is in honor of Justice For Corey Feldman

I have been thinking for some time about how to keep track in one easy place, all of the information that I have learned about actor Corey Feldman. 

This forum is for all of the #FELDFAM and fans to follow easily.  I share so many posts daily, so for the purpose of time, clarity and reference, l have decided it’s best to start a blog. One easy place to look for all Corey Feldman facts.

It’s amazing the amount of progress that Corey has made within the last couple of months since the launch of his #TruthCampaign. So much has transpired, that I felt it’s absolutely worth documenting. Many steps have been made and is worth celebrating. So lets sum up where we are at currently in #COREYSTRUTHCAMPAIGN. 

The indiegogo campaigned just closed at Christmas, with a final balance of $273151 and a total of 5899 backers. The gofundme campaign will remain open indefinitely. I will post an update when Corey announces his next step for another round of film investments.

The real reason I wanted to start this blog is to prove to Corey that people really are listening. Although Mainstream Media (MSM) has shown very little, if any interest in the telling of Corey’s story, we the people who have an extreme passion for justice, people and exposing the truth make up for the lack of interest and/or agenda that MSM has in not reporting of his vital story.

At present, the #Metoo movement has received national news coverage. This leaves many unanswered questions as to why #COREYSTRUTHCAMPAIGN has yet to receive the same recognition? Men are victims too. It is time to stop blaming the victim, as they do this enough themselves.

Abusers do not even discriminate those they abuse and torture based on sex, gender, religion and/or lifestyle choices. So, let’s ask the obvious question that is on everyone’s minds. WHY? WHY? WHY is the Corey Feldman story not receiving the same type of support and attention??? 

The obvious answer to this question that we, the people come up with is this is clearly a case of discrimination due to the fact that the victim in this case is a male

If this were a woman, would they have to endure the daily harassment this man receives on Social Media? For the purpose of clarification, this view/opinion is being expressed by a woman and is absolutely a fair statement that I have reached based on facts and research. 

In a society where we are fighting for equality, maybe it’s time for the politicians and media to catch up. Or at the very least stop questioning why we doubt their integrity. It is time for a much needed and long overdue change to the “Old School” mentality. They are part of the problem. 

Well, consider me the solution. I will continue to support and report on Corey Feldman and ask the difficult questions, make the difficult assessments and call out the people that are obstacles in getting Corey’s truth out there.

One of the issues for victims everywhere, is the current Statute Of Limitations. This needs to be abolished and it is time to #SHATTERTHESTATUTE It is time to start punishing the predators and to start giving the victims a voice. It is time to stop making the victim serve a life sentence, while the abusers remain free to continue the cycle of abuse. The optics of this, make it look as if this were a backwards system.

It is a proven fact, that many victims suppress memories as a means of coping. Especially, if the victim were a child at the time. Children do not have the logic or mental capacity to process the emotions they are experiencing, especially if the abuser is someone that they have known and trusted.
It was reported on the Dr. Oz Show that the average person does not even acknowledge abuse until age 42. My husband was also a victim of CSA and he actually committed suicide at the age of 42 (15 years after his brother committed suicide) so these stats are real and the risk of suicide is greater then people are willing to admit. Below are some alarming facts. Hopefully, this will help to shift the focus and harassment Corey Feldman receives on a daily basis. If you have nothing nice to say, then say nothing. Or think about how you would want to be treated if it were you or your child, that were being abused.

Please donate today. Be part of the solution, not part of the problem. 

https://www.gofundme.com/coreystruthsecured

Call To Action- Pass Child Victims Act

Recently, actor Corey Feldman has partnered with Lawyer & Advocate Marci Hamilton CEO of Child USA in his efforts to help remove the Statute Of Limitations on the reporting of Sexual Abuse.

Below, is an open letter to Senator John Flanagan with some actual facts to consider because we need his help to #PASSCHILDVICTIMSACT

There are over 2.9 million REPORTED cases of child sexual abuse reported in the U.S. each year. Consider for a moment how many cases go unreported. That is a SAD FACT.

If a person is molested as a child, the average person does not acknowledge or discuss abuse until age 42. My husband actually committed suicide as a result of systemic child abuse at age 42. DEVASTATING FACT.

The current Statute Of Limitations is actually protecting the predator and is setup so that the victim suffers a life sentence, while the predator remains free. The law is almost working against an already traumatized person and is putting others at risk for the predator to reoffend others. SAD FACT.

Most people who are abused are abused by someone they know, often times is someone with power or authority. The predator uses this as leverage over the victim as a means of threatening them from reporting within the current statute and in most cases, from even reporting at all. FACT 

New York State is a bellwether State, which we all know will help trailblaze and put pressure on the other States that are currently in the RED ZONE (As in protecting the predator, not the victim) The optics of that are not favorable. FACT.

Children should be educated through knowledge and prevention on this subject NOT through expereience on this subject. Lets give kids the tools for success.

Most people who are abused WILL DEVELOP at least one, in many cases multiple psychological disorders. By encouraging a culture of education and prevention we promote the future generations an opportunity to succeed and live healthy prosperous lives.

PLEASE HELP WITH THIS ISSUE. It is very paramount to our world and our future.

STATES CURRENTLY IN THE RED ZONE ARE:

NJ, NY, OK, TN, WA, NV, OH, PA, LA, OR, NH, MN, ND

If you live in one of these states contact your local state senator and tell them to pass the child victims act. Or, contact Senator John J Flanagan contact info is below

Also please donate to Corey’s gofundme campaign at:

https://www.gofundme.com/coreystruthsecured



Dr. Oz Recap with Corey Feldman & Child USA

On December 11, 2017 actor Corey Feldman reappeared in an exclusive interview with Dr. Oz to discuss the recent discovery of the long lost 1993 SBPD tapes. This is the first of many steps, vindicating Feldman of reporting sexual abuse to the SBPD within the Statute Of Limitations.

What was important to note about this episode in particular, was the timeline of how the events unfolded. Feldman contacted Dr. Oz to say that he had discovered the long lost tapes and they might be of interest to Dr.Oz. SBPD has confirmed to the show the finding of the tape, just to confirm validity of this information.

Within less than 24 hours of contacting the show, Feldman wakes up the next day, to google alerts on his phone, saying the SBPD had found the tapes and was all over the press. Some would say this may be a sign of some sort of divine intervention.

The portion of the tapes we all heard publicly for the first time, not only confirm what Feldman has said all along, but shows the focus of their investigation being solely on Michael Jackson and not on the name of his abuser (that the detectives mentioned, not Feldman) 

What sticks out as the most upsetting and disturbing part of the interview, was the the sound of the evil, mocking laugh of an unprofessional detective, asking Feldman if she had hit a sore spot. 

It’s at this point, that the investigation should have taken a slightly different course of action and may have been, had this been a case of a lesser profile and the detective been more seasoned and less biased. 

The detective then asks Feldman if he reported the incident and he replied “no due to fear” like every other victim. The detective then asks if he knows of the abusers whereabouts, then goes on to make a joke of saying “if you run across this guy let me know hahaha” I think it goes without saying, that the sexual abuse of a minor is of absolutely no laughing matter. No further follow up was done by police at this point. 

In 2001, the abuser was later arrested for lude acts with a minor. Imagine the crimes and trauma that could have been prevented had the police actually followed up with those allegations at the time. So many children could have been saved at the hands of a predator if this was dealt with in a timely fashion instead of pushed to the side.

With the help of the amazing Dr. Oz, Corey has recently partnered with Marci Hamilton, Lawyer and advocate in New York State and CEO of @Child_Usa. 

This partnership will help Corey going forward to help #SHATTERTHESTATUTE and remove the Statute of Limitations on the reporting of Sexual Abuse.

Next article will provide further details on how we, the people can assist Feldman in making his dream a reality. You can also help by donating for his security needs at:

https://www.gofundme.com/coreystruthsecured